... Friends ...

Hi beautiful people =) Here i am again, reflecting the values in life and writing it for myself and my friends … 

Hmm … Let’s see what should i pick on for today's topic … Well, what about friendship ? Good ? Okay ! Friendship it shall be. 

You see, humans have two sides, the angel, and the devil. We’re trying to balance our life by being sometimes an angel, at times a devil. And some of us who managed to sit aside and balance perfectly can sometimes play God *WOW* Watching both sides playing the games by the rules.

From learning ABC and 123 to be able to read the lines that im writing now, I believe we, had been through enough for us to learn. I’ve learn my lessons and i think most of u had too. A friendship sparkles everyday, every time you meet someone new. Then you have a similar topic to talk about, then you tell them your stories, and they tell you theirs. Things were going all well until that day, when everything turns ugly.

When something turned out to be bad in your friendship, there’s no half-singing in the shower. You can be either a rock star or an opera diva. You can leave it (and live your normal life as though nothing happened) or you’ll be the all-or-nothing person and take back what they’ve took from u once and for all. Cutting the friendship off in a go. Chinese people call it 'Sai Lang' in Cantonese. Wah ~

Me ? Hehehe *wicked smile* Try not to mess with me. Im like a mirror you know ? How you've been treating me will be how i am gonna treat you as one. I admit that there will always be ungrateful people around, but Hey ! Who cares. As long as we have more grateful ones that are worth cherishing =) People like you =)

Years ago, i would go all the way elaborating the examples of stories that i've heard or been through myself. But now ? Nah ~ They're not worth my time. I think im just tired of all the nonsense. You should too. Keep it to yourself. God knows what they did. Believe in Karma, coz Karma does exists. 

No matter how good you are to others, there will always be a bad egg. Bad eggs cant be sold in pasar or elsewhere so just throw them away and run fast *coz they stink*. Dont keep a bad egg in your heart coz you'll be getting a bad heart, not good for health =) Hehe ~ Well, what im trying to say is, no matter what happen and how hurtful you are, do not let those feeling affect your life. Walk, and carry on your life with other people... your family, your loved ones … Your Facebook and Blogspot !! Hehe ~

To all the good people, forgiving is good. But too forgiving ? Is so not. You have to be sensitive of what's going on. Know, what's going on. Do not allow people to take free rides on us. We're not a roller coaster in Theme Park so why allow others to take us for a fun ride again and again and again and again... If you still think that letting others taking advantages of yourself repeatingly is called - Generosity. Forgive me. I call it - Dumbo-roscity ( Lil Dumbo Fun Ride )*happy*

While you're busy thinking what you want to do to surprise your great little friend, they are busy talking craps about you to people that you dont even know. They call you when they need you and you will always be there for them. What are they there when you needed help from them ? The question is - Will they be there ? 

Personally, i dont find repeating self sacrificing praisable. I only imply on relationships but i do not think it works in friendship. Been there done that. I've finally conclude that if someone is really a friend, they are someone who mutually give (out), and take (back). And not take (what we gave), and no give. 

Some might debate that love cant be weight by how much you gave out, and how much you should take back. But hey, friendship is not a relationship, relationship. It's a 'I need you/a favor now, are you free?' and 'Yes, i am so free now/Ya, im ok.' situation. 

There's so many kinds of friendship if we want to analyze and break it into categories. Business-friendship, friends-friendship, companion-friendship, network-friendship, your-friends-are-my-friends-too-friendship, oh-i-met-her/him-once-friendship ... ta ta ta ...

You can claim that you find the bestest friend on earth just like every one else in this room once had thought. We hope that you wont be affected that much by them. Eventually, friends will be busy or they moved on and your everyday-friend will become you-will-always-be-in-my-heart friend. Good or bad friends, they're good for us. To learn life.

Remember, always remember that you can't own a friend. When it's time for them to leave and move on with their life, let them go. Dont have in mind that they are drifting away. This is life. People come and go. Foot prints stays but the shoes have changed. From slippers to heels to sport shoes and so, people move on, we move on.

From a new path in life, new job, new relationships, new family, new boyfriend, new girlfriend, new groups of friends, new environment, getting married, having a baby, divorced, a death of someone in their family, something you did, something they did, something you're doing, something they're doing ... Every single incident could possibly be the starting point of someone to move on ... Then, move out of a friendship, or should we say in a more polite manner - drifted away.

I think friendship shouldn't be a force field. It should come in naturally. A friend doesn't mean that they need to be there with us all the time, and have to help us out 24-7. They just need to give us that comfort feeling that we're not alone all the time, in our hearts. That we know, someone is there for us ... But not tied up as a responsible, a relationship. Just a simple, free, yet sweet relationship - friendship.

Friendship is very subjective. You can either grab it or throw it away in a short time. And 'Hi' could start one, and a 'Bye' can end one. So what's the fuss worrying so much about what your friend's gonna do or had done ? You life wont end with less of them and wont blossom to max with hell loads of them either way. Quality over quantity in friendship. So ? Why upset yourself so much ?

I've seen so many people getting upset with their friends until the extend where they do really really sad things. What's wrong with these people ? Come on. They're not worth it. Move on. Why waste your life on someone whom you no longer love ? Your life is precious, make it worthwhile. Enjoy the memorable sweet time you once had with that friend, smile, and then get over it. Come on, Friends are everywhere. Here's one though ~ =) hehe ~

To the bad eggs, your friends forgive u because they want to, because they love you as a friend. Definitely not because you are THAT great in acting pathetically pitiful. Being forgiven with all hearts, and being forgiven by begging, is two absolutely different story. Cherish a friend. As a friend in need, is a friend indeed. There's always deep meanings behind all says. You have to appreciate it, to experience it. Vice versa.

A word for the riders – never take the same ride twice. The ride wont just fall off the track but you'll be losing out your own time to try for another *just kidding* Dont put your ego too high. You are not that great after all. If you are, people would be taking you for a ride instead of you taking them for one.

This topic will be a long long blog ... so i'll just make this part 1 =) Part 2's coming up soon =) Muah ~

Love Always ... Leng Yein