Saturday, July 10, 2010

... Friends ...

Hi beautiful people =) Here i am again, reflecting the values in life and writing it for myself and my friends … 

Hmm … Let’s see what should i pick on for today's topic … Well, what about friendship ? Good ? Okay ! Friendship it shall be. 
You see, humans have two sides, the angel, and the devil. We’re trying to balance our life by being sometimes an angel, at times a devil. And some of us who managed to sit aside and balance perfectly can sometimes play God *WOW* Watching both sides playing the games by the rules.

From learning ABC and 123 to be able to read the lines that im writing now, I believe we, had been through enough for us to learn. I’ve learn my lessons and i think most of u had too. A friendship sparkles everyday, every time you meet someone new. Then you have a similar topic to talk about, then you tell them your stories, and they tell you theirs. Things were going all well until that day, when everything turns ugly.

When something turned out to be bad in your friendship, there’s no half-singing in the shower. You can be either a rock star or an opera diva. You can leave it (and live your normal life as though nothing happened) or you’ll be the all-or-nothing person and take back what they’ve took from u once and for all. Cutting the friendship off in a go. Chinese people call it 'Sai Lang' in Cantonese. Wah ~

Me ? Hehehe *wicked smile* Try not to mess with me. Im like a mirror you know ? How you've been treating me will be how i am gonna treat you as one. I admit that there will always be ungrateful people around, but Hey ! Who cares. As long as we have more grateful ones that are worth cherishing =) People like you =)

Years ago, i would go all the way elaborating the examples of stories that i've heard or been through myself. But now ? Nah ~ They're not worth my time. I think im just tired of all the nonsense. You should too. Keep it to yourself. God knows what they did. Believe in Karma, coz Karma does exists. 

No matter how good you are to others, there will always be a bad egg. Bad eggs cant be sold in pasar or elsewhere so just throw them away and run fast *coz they stink*. Dont keep a bad egg in your heart coz you'll be getting a bad heart, not good for health =) Hehe ~ Well, what im trying to say is, no matter what happen and how hurtful you are, do not let those feeling affect your life. Walk, and carry on your life with other people... your family, your loved ones … Your Facebook and Blogspot !! Hehe ~

To all the good people, forgiving is good. But too forgiving ? Is so not. You have to be sensitive of what's going on. Know, what's going on. Do not allow people to take free rides on us. We're not a roller coaster in Theme Park so why allow others to take us for a fun ride again and again and again and again... If you still think that letting others taking advantages of yourself repeatingly is called - Generosity. Forgive me. I call it - Dumbo-roscity ( Lil Dumbo Fun Ride )*happy*

While you're busy thinking what you want to do to surprise your great little friend, they are busy talking craps about you to people that you dont even know. They call you when they need you and you will always be there for them. What are they there when you needed help from them ? The question is - Will they be there ? 

Personally, i dont find repeating self sacrificing praisable. I only imply on relationships but i do not think it works in friendship. Been there done that. I've finally conclude that if someone is really a friend, they are someone who mutually give (out), and take (back). And not take (what we gave), and no give. 

Some might debate that love cant be weight by how much you gave out, and how much you should take back. But hey, friendship is not a relationship, relationship. It's a 'I need you/a favor now, are you free?' and 'Yes, i am so free now/Ya, im ok.' situation. 

There's so many kinds of friendship if we want to analyze and break it into categories. Business-friendship, friends-friendship, companion-friendship, network-friendship, your-friends-are-my-friends-too-friendship, oh-i-met-her/him-once-friendship ... ta ta ta ...

You can claim that you find the bestest friend on earth just like every one else in this room once had thought. We hope that you wont be affected that much by them. Eventually, friends will be busy or they moved on and your everyday-friend will become you-will-always-be-in-my-heart friend. Good or bad friends, they're good for us. To learn life.

Remember, always remember that you can't own a friend. When it's time for them to leave and move on with their life, let them go. Dont have in mind that they are drifting away. This is life. People come and go. Foot prints stays but the shoes have changed. From slippers to heels to sport shoes and so, people move on, we move on.

From a new path in life, new job, new relationships, new family, new boyfriend, new girlfriend, new groups of friends, new environment, getting married, having a baby, divorced, a death of someone in their family, something you did, something they did, something you're doing, something they're doing ... Every single incident could possibly be the starting point of someone to move on ... Then, move out of a friendship, or should we say in a more polite manner - drifted away.

I think friendship shouldn't be a force field. It should come in naturally. A friend doesn't mean that they need to be there with us all the time, and have to help us out 24-7. They just need to give us that comfort feeling that we're not alone all the time, in our hearts. That we know, someone is there for us ... But not tied up as a responsible, a relationship. Just a simple, free, yet sweet relationship - friendship.

Friendship is very subjective. You can either grab it or throw it away in a short time. And 'Hi' could start one, and a 'Bye' can end one. So what's the fuss worrying so much about what your friend's gonna do or had done ? You life wont end with less of them and wont blossom to max with hell loads of them either way. Quality over quantity in friendship. So ? Why upset yourself so much ?

I've seen so many people getting upset with their friends until the extend where they do really really sad things. What's wrong with these people ? Come on. They're not worth it. Move on. Why waste your life on someone whom you no longer love ? Your life is precious, make it worthwhile. Enjoy the memorable sweet time you once had with that friend, smile, and then get over it. Come on, Friends are everywhere. Here's one though ~ =) hehe ~

To the bad eggs, your friends forgive u because they want to, because they love you as a friend. Definitely not because you are THAT great in acting pathetically pitiful. Being forgiven with all hearts, and being forgiven by begging, is two absolutely different story. Cherish a friend. As a friend in need, is a friend indeed. There's always deep meanings behind all says. You have to appreciate it, to experience it. Vice versa.

A word for the riders – never take the same ride twice. The ride wont just fall off the track but you'll be losing out your own time to try for another *just kidding* Dont put your ego too high. You are not that great after all. If you are, people would be taking you for a ride instead of you taking them for one.

This topic will be a long long blog ... so i'll just make this part 1 =) Part 2's coming up soon =) Muah ~

Love Always ... Leng Yein

23 comments:

KK.Wong said...

Sounds also applies to love relationships...

Leng Yein said...

Kk : =) Relationship hurts the heart deeper ... but mend the wound faster =)

KK.Wong said...

=) Relationships can be cruel like a pin...

~sPidEr~ said...

OMG.....i damn love this blog...frenzship did meant a lot to me..when i was down they cheers me up, when i happy thy can feel it too. but somehow i did betray be4 by my best frenz, those feeling is very hurt deep into my heart...
frenz either is good or bad, realy dependin on how we treat each others.
jie & i are baby-ship~ hahaha~

Anonymous said...

a GOOD FRIEND knows all your best stories.

a BEST FRIEND has lived them with u

its sad when people u know become people u knew.

BUT SAYANG REMEMBER !!!

when somebody annoys u.

it takes 42 muscles in your face to frown.

BUT it only takes 4 muscles to extend your arms and
BITCH SLAP that MOTHERFUCKER


always sayang u de'cammie <3

Anonymous said...

:) big hugs from a long lost fren

J-the deva said...

jie,I love u... T.T so touching!!! nice post ever!!!

Veenie W.Yee said...

so true.. i was once who took friendship too seriously & lesson learnt.. im more happy by cherishing what best ard me now.

L1 said...

Awesome post and again lots of home truths (and how I know it)! Love your blog and your posting style, you got it down to a fine art!

283 said...

As long as we have more grateful ones that are worth cherishing =) People like you =)...我喜欢林云姐写的这句话..
以前我常常会因为朋友之间的争执而闹到自己躲起来哭,但现在我都告诉自己,只要我曾经为一段友情而努力维持过,就心满意足,因为别人有权利选择我是否可以继续当他的朋友,而我更有权利把他们在我生命中删掉...以前的经验让我懂得如何珍惜现在,现在我身边有几个很要好的朋友,也许我们哪一天会因为某些可笑的理由而分开,我更了解到往后我们一定会有分开的一天,因为他们已找到了自己的另一个生活重心,家庭,事业..管他的以后会不会分开,反正珍惜现在就好了..看着他们幸福,是身为朋友最好的安慰 :)

Rose said...

this article is well penned down. I am totally going thru that roller coaster of a 7 months relationship! What a rider! It's amazing how my heart got captured and fell into it. It has been about a month now after the break that he wants to remain as friends. I'm glad I came across your blog. So much truth in it after reading all your articles under 'love' section. Keep it up! It is amazing u take the time and effort to pen it down. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

its mean a lot to me
friends always hurt the deep in the heart.
cry til no tears
the most u care, the deeperst u hurt
alone always is happy
i dun need to responsible with everything.

@ndY!!!... . said...

im not sure if its HURTFUL or not . .
u share ur businessses with ur BUDDIES and all of them look at like . ..

damn my bro WENT whacko kind of look . . . and they tried to slap me out of it . . .

saddddddddddd dao . . donno wad 2 say. ..

that is why i dont have much male frenz they ENVY me . . and they will STAB me in the back . . .

i have a very good BRADERRR so call BROTHER . .. sometimes we just wanna catch up . . but he comes out . .PICIT sms . . talk to MY GIGI ah wait . .

so u better stay home . . .
and WHEN theres ladies on the table .. all de TAILOU pattern coming out , degrades everyone even ur MOTHER . . .. c this kind of person . . sien lo . .

then WAD everything also can . . but u ask him to do something . . WHAT shit seketul cannOT COME out . . .damn pissed .. .

i was planing to tk him as my manager for 10k a mth . .. now AH JIAK SAI LA . . . eat shit u know bro ? ?

Anonymous said...

i TREATED my x like a DIAMOND . ..

spent 20k on her in 3-4months
cuci toilet for her . . mop floor for her .. . .

cuci the whole FREAKING F*CKING house . . . .. .

but I FOUND out last 2 weeks she STILL got 3BF outside .. . . .

F*CKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKla. . . . .

u know what is FUCK of . . so any BITCHES want to stickkkk to my money COME .. i pay u PER SESSION thats it and SORRRY . . . please . . . ..

so now im a SINGLE rich . . lovelesss guy . . alone of models around so ? so wad . . model are just a pretty F face . . .sorry not scolding u all ya .. .
just those i KNEW that are F faces . . . . . .

haihhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. . . . .
when will my DARLING come ? i miss u . . u know ? ? when u will appear leh ? ? ? ? ? ? i need u now . . . . . .

accident at home sleeping . . PLAYING my super ALIENWARE baby ngiak3 . .. . datz y i call HER alien lappie bcoz shes on my LAP . . and got MULTI colour . . .woooo oo o o o damn HOT

i love u ALY . . .. wow i figured a name for my LAPPIE . . .ALY. . nice nice thx LENG CHEH CHEH . . .

btw ur older 2-3 months only muahahahaahahahah so don care ur STILL older muahahahaha

@ndY!!!... . said...

how to mend ? ? ?
my HEART already broken into 7 PIECES ? ? ?

GOT so kelian de person de meh ? ?
im not good enough ? ? ? ?

not handsome enough ? not bufffff enough / ? ? ?

i donno la . . .

Vincent Leong said...

keep up the good work.

Nora Cherry said...

Some words are awesome, hope I can share some.

Love u Leng Yein~

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