relationship is like .,.. a dead shark

A relationship, I think, is like a shark, you know? It has to constantly move forward or it dies. And I think what we got on our hands is a dead shark ~ Hah ~

Have you ever been in love n it doesn’t work out? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defences, you build up a whole suit of armour, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life…You give them a piece of you. They didn’t ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn’t your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like ‘maybe we should be just friends’ turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It’s a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. This is as much as love can get – a broken love.

Some say that there is fairy tale in life. But some say there is none. Well, i agree with both. A woman has got to love a bad man once or twice in her life, to be thankful for a good one. In the end of the day, it is up to us to paint the beautiful picture that we had in our dreams… When our man strayed too far out, it is us to get them back, or let them out. Never underestimate how great n powerful a woman can be. Just look at ur mom. She gave u a life ~

Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. So each is inevitably disappointed. Men have hitherto treated women like birds which have strayed down to them from the heights; as something more delicate, more fragile, more savage, stranger, sweeter, soulful - but as something which has to be caged up so that it shall not fly away. It is because of insecureness that they have, the feeling of losing, the feeling of lost control, taking control…

Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep… wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you…. The one who turns to his friends and says, ‘that’s her.’ I found mine, and i wish that u too, found yours.

Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more. Someone asked me why women don’t gamble as much as men do, and I gave the commonsensical reply that we don’t have as much money. That was a true and incomplete answer. In fact, women’s total instinct for gambling is satisfied by marriage. By then, ‘WHY?’ is not the question. There are four questions of value in life… What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love. Agree? Not wealth , not Louis Vuitton, Chanel, Versace, nor Gucci, Prada… When the girls longed for branded n luxury lifestyle, even if they got it, and then u place the luxury beside the man they really love, they will go back to basic with their man. With no make-up, no explanation, just love…

All love shifts and changes. I don’t know if you can be wholeheartedly in love all the time. It is a curious thought, but it is only when you see people looking ridiculous that you realize just how much you love them. Funny how love turn around n make things happen just the way it is. Love has d power to change a fixed man. True love always makes a man better, no matter what woman inspires it. It always does. The reflection of each person lies 50% on how their partner’s value weight. So if u see someone behaving somewhat ‘B’, their partner may need to bear half of d blame. So sad ~

I think that between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship. At first i disagree, then when i happen to think it all over again, it is so true. It’s either they have the value we’re looking for, they have something we want or we adore, they can help us, they can calm us down n make us feel better, or they can be there for us when we needed someone around… we adore … and we need them around us …

Take Beyonce Knowles’s ‘If I Were A Boy’’s video clip for example - Why is it that men are permitted to be obsessed about their work (n other women), but women are only permitted to be obsessed about their man? Hmm … that’s a good clip which reflects on everyday’s love ~ I don’t know whether u’ll do that to ur man, but man or woman, we’re all d same. Seen n heard too much don’t u think. Well, we should learn to be thankful , appreciative, n cherish when we still have it. When love’s gone, we can only hope for a new one… the past are far bygone.

Men say they love independence in a woman, but they don’t waste a second demolishing it brick by brick. Especially those women who has their strong financial stability n career. The relationship is harder to handle. When love became a comparison, the feeling of challenged n imbalance between two will break the love u had. My first relationship lasted for years but didn’t work out because the man i love couldn’t handle the stress i’d caused. My career, my lifestyle. Though we were so in love, the second i got my feet into business n the society, it changes everything n tore us apart. We started to see a big difference in our income n stability. Our needs for different lifestyle, different things. My crave for lushness n pleasure overshadowed my love for him. I chose to have a lavish life than to stay by my man n not striving forward.

Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, a place that you and the other person can take. Chances are that people walked through the same path, only later to find that they ended up in a different direction. Opportunity knocks for every man, but you have to give a woman a ring. And after the ring is given, another door opens. More challenged, more committed, more problems … more love … Or maybe, does the ring fits the woman’s finger ? Or maybe, does ur ring has the C’s …

You can’t stop loving or wanting to love because when its right, it’s the best thing in the world. When you’re in a relationship and it’s good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete. Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable, u’re ready for love.

The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships. How u’ll live through life and how u’re going to end it rely on how much love u had n gave. People are dying each day, most of them were loved n remembered, some of them were not. If u know u r going to die today, what r u going to do? Work? Get some branded bags? Go on vacation alone? Hug a bear? Adopt a pet?

Don’t settle for a relationship that won’t let you be yourself. U will suffer later. And then only u realised that u’ve gotten a few years older… In real love you want the other person’s good. In romantic love you want the other person. Which one r u ? When we’re incomplete, we’re always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we’re still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on–series polygamy–until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfilment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.

If our relationship is like a rose, how long it lasts, no one will actually know. Love can erase all the awful past. And love can be yours, but you’ll only realise in the end… To feel that love, it sometimes makes you sigh… But to have it to leave, some of you would rather die. A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person… I hereby hope that you’ve found that special rose, and that you love and care for the one you’ve chose…

Which is right and what is wrong … I hope u have the answer deep down at the bottom of your heart … Well 2009 , i wish u love for eternity …

Love Always … Leng Yein